What to do when someone dies
When the Death occurs at home
Inform the family Doctor as soon as possible. He/she may write out the Death Notification Form of cause of death after visiting the Deceased or request you attend the surgery to collect it.
When the death occurs in a hospice or hospital
The staff will inform you and help you obtain the Death Notification Form . They will also be available to help you with advice until you contact us to make the funeral arrangements.
Dealing with Death - Acceptance and Strength.
The death of someone close is not something that anyone gets over. In fact, it’s something that most people don’t want to get over. Getting over something implies forgetting about it and the last thing you’ll want to do is to forget about your wife, husband, father, mother, brother, sister or friend. This is turn does not mean that someone who has recently been bereaved should live by or in the past. The aim is to accept that they have gone, draw strength from the past and let go of the pain.
Strength comes from the memories of shared experiences. This can be the memories of single frivolous incidents that made both of your laugh, but perhaps more important are the memories of significant incidents that reinforced the beliefs and values that you shared in your relationship. Typically, these might include honesty, integrity, supportiveness, respect, trust and devotion.
These memories will help you in two ways. When you feel yourself slipping into pessimism and depression they will remind you of how you loved, and where you loved and will sustain you in difficult times.
Death is nothing at all.
I have only slipped away into the next room.
I am I, and you are you. Whatever we were to each other that we still are.
Call me by old familiar name, speak to me in the easy way you always used.
Put no difference into your tone, wear no forced air of solemnity or sorrow.
Laugh as we always laughed at the little jokes we enjoyed together.
Play smile. Think of me. Pray for me. Let my name be the household name it was.
Let it be spoken without the shadow of a ghost in it.
Life means all that it ever meant. It is the same as it ever was.
What is death but negligible accident.
Why should I be out of your mind because I am out of sight.
All is well, nothing is lost.
One brief moment and all will be as it was before.
(Henry Scott Holland)